What Is Love?

I have been asking myself that question lately. I feel like Hollywood, romantic novels, and even some friends say that you're supposed to feel these waves of emotions, butterflies, "sexual" chemistry, etc. There will be fights and frustration, but in the end, this is the "love" that makes the relationship work.

But are you really supposed to feel all these emotions? Are you supposed to be caught up in those warm fuzzy feelings? Are you not "in love" if you don't get the butterflies and crazy emotions when you are with someone? Is that what love really is? I have always felt waves of excitement and "butterflies" when I'm with a certain group of people or I'm super excited about something (which by the way rarely happens and only happens with a select group of friends), but is that the same thing? I have never been a super emotional/romantic person, so when I read and hear about all these romantic things and feelings and stuff, I'm just like uh... I don't feel like that and I don't think I will ever be like that.

And I don't think I'm alone in being like this. My parents appear to be the same way (the apple clearly doesn't fall far from the tree haha) and they have been married for over 20 years, so there has got to be some truth to what I'm saying. And I've always looked up to my parents and their marriage because of it. They have even told me not to get caught up with the culture of "romanticizing" (I don't know what else to call it) and as I've grown older, I kind of understand that now.

Is it possible to be in love without all the emotional s**t? Is it possible to love without it being so mushy? I personally can see myself doing anything for someone I "love" no matter what despite the fact that I lack all the romantic mushiness or whatever. I don't think you can base your love for someone solely on the romantic, emotional aspects of it. Because those emotions can fade away and there will always be bad times. Which is why many relationships and friendships end, right? Love has to also be based on what will happen during the tough times. Will you stick by each other during breakdowns? Will you support each other no matter what? Will you both give up and end things when you fight or are you willing to work the differences out? Will you always be honest with each other? Stick with each other through sickness and pain?

I think society (especially here in the U.S.) today has created an underlining meaning of what love should be and what being "in love" is supposed to feel like; fully revolved around the emotional aspects of love, especially in movies like The Notebook and other chick flicks. And I feel like I don't meet the criteria for it and I never will. Have I not met the right people or is there truth to what I am saying? And is this a good thing or a bad thing?

NOTE: This is 100% my personal opinion. 




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