A Nice Person vs. A Good Person

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I recently got called out for offending someone by saying they weren't a very nice person. You're probably thinking, "wow sarah that is awful." I know, it is a horrible thing to say to someone!! 🙈 But I truly didn't mean it in an offensive way. I had told the person that they were a really good person and had good intentions... but just not very nice, lol. They were still upset by my comment. Which had me going down deep in my thoughts; being nice versus being good.

Here are definitions of both words that I found on google.

Nice: adjective. pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory.

 Good: (1) adjective. to be desired or approved of. (2) noun. that which is morally right; righteousness. (I put both definitions since both seemed necessary)

 So basically, my question is, is it better to be known as a nice person or a good person? Or are they the same? I personally think there's a difference between the two, but here are some examples of what I mean.

  • A robber could be the nicest person in the world to someone and have a great personality, but when they go and steal from people's homes, that doesn't make them a good person.
  • Another person could be a good person--help the needy, donate money to charity, volunteer--but if they are known for constantly being rude to people, that doesn't mean they are a nice person.

I don't mean to get all deep and dark, but when I die, I wonder what I will be known for. Because I personally don't think I'm the nicest person. (Like the fact that I said that someone was not nice to their face probably says something, lol) But I do think I'm a good person though. I think. But will I be known for not being friendly? Will I be known for for the good things I did for the community? Will I be known for being nice to everyone I encountered? If I do all this good charitable work and help others in their struggles, but was obnoxious and rude to everyone, will people remember the charitable works or the fact that I was a jerk (this is all hypothetically speaking btw)? There are so many celebrities who are very nice to people in general and nice during interviews, but also do a lot of terrible things behind the scenes. Politics is another example. A lot people who work in politics appear nice to the public, but do a lot of dirty things behind the scenes as well. But I also know a lot of people who were never really nice to me, but I know they are genuinely good people. But when I think of them, I don't necessarily think about the good, I think about the times they weren't nice to me.

Am I making sense? I know this is a strange and random topic to talk about, and is probably not a big deal at all, but this really got my mind twisted. Ideally, I would want to be both a nice AND good person. But I personally would want to focus on being a good person rather than a nice person and be remembered for being a good person and helping others. But at the same time, I don't want anyone to remember me and only think of that one time in high school when I was not nice to that one girl. Ya see what I'm saying?

What do you guys think? Obviously it's best to be both, but do you think it's better to be known as a nice person or a good person? Please let me know or comment down below!!

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  1. AkshayNovember 28, 2019 at 5:51 PM

    I generally think of myself to be a good person. Now I totally understand people who sometimes complain about me not being nice. Thanks for writing this. :)

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  2. AnonymousApril 3, 2024 at 9:07 AM

    This is powerful. Thank you for writing this. I've been told that I am a good person, but I can't say that I'm a really nice one anymore.

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